What are some underrated people

UNI NOVA:Why is that?

NIKITIN: With age, the resources change and with them the goals that people pursue in their relationships. Older people focus more on their social ties. They consciously maintain few, but for them emotionally fulfilling contacts. Older adults are primarily motivated to avoid negative social experiences such as conflicts. They usually do this much better than younger people because they are more interested in the other person's wellbeing.

UNI NOVA:So are older people more empathic?

NIKITIN: Not necessarily. Empathy requires perspective, a cognitive process that older adults find increasingly difficult. In psychology, we speak more of “responsiveness”, the ability to adapt to the needs of a counterpart, even if one does not understand their emotions. This works like a relationship cement: older people feel close to the other person even in difficult situations because they pay more attention to their well-being.

UNI NOVA:How do you measure interest in the other's wellbeing?

NIKITIN: There are specific comments from study participants. “Responsiveness” can also be captured implicitly through language analysis: older people, for example, speak more often in the plural, use more we-words, regardless of whether they were interested in social rapprochement or avoidance in a situation, i.e. striving for something positive or wanted to avoid something negative. This behavior expresses a focus on the other person, which young people lose in difficult situations in favor of a stronger first-person perspective.

UNI NOVA:What is successful aging for you?

NIKITIN: Successful aging is a creative process and needs active design. It's about reorganizing your own goals with a view to your own resources. This also includes saying goodbye to unattainable goals.

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