What is your most irrational and stupid fear

Personality Development: Simplify Your Fear

... by recognizing the basic form of your fears

Melanie is paralyzed. Nothing works anymore. In a few minutes she is supposed to speak in front of 100 people. Nobody wants to harm her. Where does this terrible fear come from, which is constricting your throat?

The German depth psychologist Fritz Riemann (1902–1979) researched fear all his life and identified 4 basic forms. Once you have recognized your fear type, you will see through your typical fearful situations better - and thereby already take much of the power of fear.

The 2 arrows of fear

The first two types of fear deal with the relationship of your self to other people, the second two with your relationship with your lifetime.

Fear of becoming self (depressed)

The emotion-oriented personality seeks intimate contact and has a pronounced longing to be loved and to love. These people need warmth, confirmation, are selfless to the point of giving up themselves, can easily identify with others and forget about themselves. They are able to work in a team, are balancing and understanding, but tend to become dependent because they do not like to be alone. They are afraid of appearing aggressive and have a tendency to sacrifice themselves. They revolve around others and as little as possible around themselves. Behind this is the fear of finding oneself.

In extreme cases, this type becomes depressed (Latin for “depressed”) and develops the fantasy of only sleeping, merging with nature or dying.

simplify test question: Do you sometimes do incredibly stupid things just because it makes another person happy or earns you praise? Do you enjoy being called humble? Don't you like to answer the question: "How are you?"

Fear of devotion (schizoid)

The mind-oriented personality is characterized by the desire for demarcation and emphasizes its independence. She is afraid of closeness, revolves around herself with her thoughts and feelings and tries to avoid rotation around other people. The distance type is a loner deep in the heart, even if he can appear very different to the outside world.

If he were to extend his desire for distance to the extreme, he would be schizoid (Greek for “cut off”) and would have lost contact with the outside world. Schizoid fantasies: living in silence in the monastery, no longer having to eat.

simplify test question: Do you find it difficult to do something just because it pleases someone else? Do you sometimes find other people's actions very stupid and superficial? Do you often ask yourself: "Where am I ?!"

 

Fear of change (compulsive)

The order-oriented personality needs planning, order, a long-term perspective and foresight in order to feel good. She strives for the permanent, wants to settle down in this world at home and build on a reliable future. She fears impermanence, the irrational and the unforeseen. This permanent type avoids risk and uncertainty. In his experience, uncertainty is like death.

In the extreme, the compulsive dreams of an unchangeable, stationary world that he has completely under control and is subject to brazen, reliable laws.

simplify test questions: Do you like to come late? Do you sometimes dare to do less than you can? Are you annoyed that it all happened so quickly?

Fear of need (hysterical)

The change-oriented personality is always ready to change, to learn new things, to give up the familiar and to experience life as a passage. The new has a great attraction for the change type, the unknown attracts him magically. Associated with this is the fear of necessities, rules and stipulations. His thirst for freedom can turn into a panic of finality and paralysis.

The ideal for the hysteric would be a world in which everything is allowed and everything is possible, in which he could live out all his ideas and addictions without remorse.

simplify test questions: Are you late often? Do you overestimate yourself more often? Do you ever get annoyed that there are so few of the many options available to you in your limited life?

For further reading: Fritz Riemann, Basic Forms of Fear. A depth psychological study. Reinhardt publishing house. Munich 41st edition 2013. ISBN-13: 978-3497024223. € 16.90.

Author: Tiki Coast Maker

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